Ending Toxic Relationships
Moving on after a toxic relationship is not an easy task to do, especially for us women. More often than not, when we are trying to end a toxic relationship, a big dilemma sets in. The dilemma is: one side of your brain tells you to stay with him and the other side tells you to stay away from him. Trying to figure out which side is good for you can really be hard, but it really possible.
Sure, you can opt for deprecating humor and visit www.mybreakupspace.com (think take-off on MySpace) or google “how to get revenge” all day long. Did you know you can even get your very own free blog space to rant and rave about what a jerk he is at www.mybreakupblog.com? Yeah, maybe if you’re feeling really emotional one day, the break up blog is a good way to vent. But let’s face reality these tactics are just temporary stress toys to bite down on while you deal with your feelings. So what should you do?
Go for a temporary fix to get those tears out. Get lost in a movie! You know that when you are riding that emotional roller coaster, just the sight of two baby elephants snuggling will be enough to send you into a crying tizzy, so get it out on something other than your relationship. Have your own afternoon sob-fest and watch three in a row with a big bucket of popcorn and a box of Kleenex. But seriously, please don’t pick a love story.
Don’t call your ex just yet. Bear in mind that your relationship with him is toxic. Take some time off hearing his voice, by doing so, you’ll be much more stronger and sane before the time that you really have to see him again.
Make a list of the good and the bad. The physicality of a list will help you put the true nature of the relationship into a more realistic perspective. When you can actually linger over all those bad things he did to you or all those stupid things you fought over, you are more likely to think reasonably and want to move on. Score one for the angel!
Find a sports or any activity for your pent-up energy. Let the stress off your body and do something that’s meaningful for you. Play tennis, learn photography, etc. These activities will make your mind wander about something else and also will let the creativity out in you. Once you’ve done it, you’ll be able to have a much clearer mind and better point of view.
Babble things out with your friends of any family member who knows about your relationship. They will surely listen to anything you want to say and might give you some pointers, especially those who have been through toxic relationships as well.
Breakups are unfortunately, a universal part of life, and many of us may go through a toxic relationship at some point. It’s okay to grieve and it’s okay to cry. It’s okay to feel anxiety, depression and stress. Don’t beat yourself up, and most importantly, don’t give up on dating!
Candice Garcia answered the question about getting over toxic relationships. You can find more articles on her relationship blog at http://getexbackmagic.com.
